How you view your past can be broken down into one of two strategies: regret or reflection.Īs you think about your past, do not regret your experiences, action, and thoughts. However, we ARE in control of our perspective. It is true, we do not have control of what has happen in the past. We all need to change our view of these scars. It is not something we want to talk about and do not offer a story ending with laughter.
However, with a mental scar the pain does not go away. The pain from a physical scar goes away, we just have the reminder. We tend to hold on to those in a very different way. Mental scars don’t offer the same parable. If you have physical scars, a common question you are asked is, “How did you get that?” The story related to a physical scar typically ends with a tale of stupidity and laughter.
Physical scars tend to be a source of pride. It causes you to live in the past and suffer almost daily. It causes you to doubt yourself and the person you want to be. I cannot relate to every situation, but the impact it has on us is always the same. The common theme is something that impacted them in their childhood and still affects them today. Many readers of my content are people struggling with their past. You should know you’re beautiful just the way you are “There’s a hope that’s waiting for you in the dark It’s called “Scars to Your Beautiful” by Alessia Cara. Over time I have been hearing this one song which lyrics really hit home. My daughter’s favorites are yelled out (by her…not me!) as we go. As a parent of 9-year old twins, I am VERY aware of the lyrics of these songs my kids are listening to. Then, suddenly, my daughter yells out “Keep this on!” And we now have a song to listen to. I’m in control of the radio (of course)! As I go from station to station, I am trying to find something to get us jamming. Picture this…my wife, me, and 2 kids driving in the car. This is a guest post by author and life coach Joe Bellistri, who bases his teachings on a depth of real life experiences. Listen to this article through Instaread here: